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Journey to Success

   Every journey starts somewhere. It has a beginning and an end. The journey to success is no different, and I believe there are eight distinct phases that we travel through on our way to our desired destination. My intention in sharing these with you is so that you may see where you are on your journey to success, because if you can see where you currently stand, then you will know where to proceed from there.

Phase #1 - I won't do it! The fear of failing can be so strong that we are not even willing to take the risk to try something new or different. If that attitude persists, we may develop a negative and defeated mindset that keeps us stuck.

Phase #2 - I can't do it! If we move from the "I won't do it!" stage, it is common to then move into the "I can't do it!" phase. However, it is still a fear-based position. Rather than being afraid to try something, this is more from the fear of not knowing how to do it. But, if you think about it, we weren't born knowing how to do anything! We had to learn how to do everything we now know how to do. Believe it or not, there was a time when the hugely successful Bill Gates did not even know how to turn on a computer!

Phase #3 - I want to do it! This is where a slight change begins to occur. There is a shift in the attitude that moves past those first two negative phases of I won't and I can't to I want to do it, in spite of my fear of failure and lack of know-how.

A little girl once asked her mother, "Momma, why do flowers grow?" The weary mother replied, "Sweetie, I guess the seed is just tired of being in the dirt and wants to grow out of it." That is the third phase - I want to do it!

Phase #4 - How do I do it? This is where growth begins to take place as you take on the responsibility of learning how to do what it is you want to do. You learn to ask the right questions of those who are already doing it. You find a mentor, go back to school, or read helpful books, doing whatever you can to build your confidence and know-how. This causes you to pick up speed toward your goal and toward success.

Phase #5 - I'll try to do it. Once you have a little knowledge under your belt of how to do something, it causes you to be willing to step out and take a greater chance. You are willing to take the risk, even if failure occurs.

By the way, some would say that we should never say that we will "try" to do something. We either do it, or we don't; there is no "try". And, while I agree with that in principle, it is actually just a play on words. We all are trying every day of our lives. That is part of the learning and growing process. Whether you are trying to learn how to ride a bicycle, drive a car, or get a date with someone, it begins with the "I'll try" attitude. Progress can be made when you are willing to risk, even if you fail.

Phase #6 - I can do it! Confidence now begins to be built in your life. The word "confidence" comes from two Latin words: con, meaning with; and fide, meaning faith. So, with faith you start to move ahead. Faith is not limited to the spiritual realm. We must have faith in our finances, our health, our leaders, and of course, faith in ourselves. When a person has the "can-do" attitude, they can smell success and it will not be long until they taste it.

Phase #7 - I will do it! Now you begin to understand the power of perseverance. You do not easily give up. If you fall down, you get up. If you make a mistake, you learn from it and grow. It is learning to "out suffer" anyone else. It is learning to "stay with the stuff" and do whatever it takes to see the goal accomplished. Success is just around the corner.

Phase #8 - Yes, I did it! The sweet sense of satisfaction sets in as you see what you are able to accomplish. It doesn't matter if the goal is losing weight, writing a book, making money, getting a certain job, finding the love of your life, or a thousand and one other goals or dreams that you have for yourself and your future. Any goal can be accomplished when you have the right attitude and are willing to do the work. And, when you see how you accomplished one goal, you want to set higher ones, bigger ones, and loftier ones. It becomes a way of life.

As I said in the very beginning, if a person knows which phase they have reached in this process, they will know where to go next. I don't know what you are facing today in your personal or professional life, but it would do you well to look through these eight different phases and focus on how to move past where you are currently located.

I find it difficult to jump from Phase 1 to Phase 8 in a single bound. Each phase is different and there is something to be learned from each one. I believe that the eight phases can be experienced over a long period of time, or they can happen in a matter of minutes or hours. The key is to know where you are on your journey and what you need to do to get to your desired end and achieve the success you want. After all, isn't that what life is all about?

Keith Young

Something Powerful You Can Do With Your Past

How many of you have heard that you cannot do anything with your past? I know I have taught that to my clients many times before. Today I am going to tell you that there is something very powerful that you can do with your past.

Maybe something’s happened in your past and to this very day still hangs over you. Maybe it was something foolish that you did when you were younger or maybe it was just a secret situation that no one else knew about except you.

I do believe that most of us have things in our lives that if we could do them over again we would. I know I do. There is something very powerful that you can do with those situations but before I tell you what it is, let me tell you about two things that do not work concerning your past.

The first thing is, you can regret your past. This will cause you to feel guilty and frustrated because of what is happened in your past. Guilt is a gift that keeps on giving. Ask me how I know that? There is absolutely no way for you to go back and undo the past. When you start to live in regret you will be living under a cloud of sorrow and depression.

When you start focusing on things in your past your thoughts start to become things like, “I wish I could do that all over again.” Or maybe, “I wish that had never happened.” You start the, “if only, if only, if only…” Syndrome. Regret will simply take you around in circles and you end up right back to where you started.

The second thing is, you can re-live your past. This could be perhaps even a worse situation. When you try and relive your past, you will then constantly look for ways to undo what is already been done. I know some people were still trying to make amends for something that happened many years ago.

I know some people that are still striving to please a deceased relative hoping to make a past mistake turn out better. If you would stop and think about it, that makes absolutely no sense whatsoever. When you continually relive your situation, it will always bring you to a dead end. You will end up remaining stuck exactly where you are.

I want to suggest another way that you can handle your past and that is to reframe it. When you stop and reframe your past, you then will be able to look at it and learn from your mistakes. You will be able to learn and grow from what you have experienced in your life.

All of us make mistakes because we are human beings. Stop living with a spirit of regret or trying to relive the past because the best thing you can possibly do is to reframe everything. Start to put things in proper perspective. Maybe your mistakes have been made when you were trying to learn how to do life. You are in a different place in different mindset in that time of your life.

These mistakes could’ve been by accident or may have been deliberate. It doesn’t matter because the deed was done. Now the best thing for you to do is reframe it by saying that what happened did give you a new direction, wisdom and insights for your life.

Think of it this way, things didn’t happen to you, they happened for you! I encourage you to take the time to ask yourself some questions. What really bothers you? What want you from your past Western Mark what thoughts constantly creep into your mind when you are quiet and laying in bed each night or when you are all alone?

Learn how to reframe those thoughts and let them be the road signs that would take your life in a new direction. I personally have learned to do this even though it has been painful. I have allowed my failures to turn into blessings in my life by reframing things that hurt me in the past but now give my life new direction in the present and for the future.

Every single one of us can refrain things in such a way that we will learn from our mistakes and failures in order to become all that we were meant to be. That my friend is the healthy way to see life. It also happens to be the best way to grow in the future. If you would just give this reframing a try I guarantee you this attitude works.

The 4 Stages of Learning

I don’t know if you have ever been introduced to the four stages of learning or not, but they certainly are worth knowing. When you understand each of the four levels, you can determine where you are in the process as it relates to a specific area or project in your own personal life. Let’s review them together.

  1. Unconscious Incompetence– That simply means that you don’t know that you don’t know! When you are not aware that you do not know something, you tend to go through life with a very naïve approach. You often get blindsided. It is painful.

The best example of this is a young child. Those of us, who have had children, one day realized that young children must be watched carefully because they do not know what they do not know. If there is danger or an unexpected problem arises, a child could be at risk very quickly.

If you are totally incompetent in a particular area of life and are also unaware that you are incompetent in that area, you are simply a disaster waiting to happen! The first stage of learning is unconscious incompetence and it is not a very good place to be, but we have all been there at one time or another.

  1. Conscious Incompetence– That is when you begin to be aware that you do not know something. You start to recognize your lack of experience or your lack of knowledge in a particular area or endeavor of life. You recognize the fact that other people seem to know how to do things that you do not seem know how to do. This position puts you in a posture to begin to make progress. You can start learning and growing as you are aware of your incompetence in a particular area.

A good example of this would be teenagers who want to get a driver’s license. They see other people driving a car and they want to drive one too! They immediately become aware of what they do not know. They understand that there are laws and rules that they must learn if they want to get their license. There will be a test to take! And, because it is a burning desire of their hearts to drive, they are willing to learn and practice in their area of incompetence until they can pass the test and get that coveted driver’s license.

  1. Conscious Competence– This is the area where a person realizes that not only can they learn information, but they can also do something with it. They begin to practice and develop their skills. They get good at what they have learned how to do.

An example of this may be someone who can play the piano. They know what it takes to play the piano because they have practiced over and over again. And, the more they practiced, the more competent they become in that skill.

Anyone who is an expert at whatever they are doing has developed conscious competence. They put in the time, effort and energy to learn what it was they wanted to do in order to become more accomplished at doing it.

All of us should have conscious competence in our own particular areas of expertise or whatever vocation we are involved in on a daily basis.

  1. Unconscious Competence– This is when something becomes second nature to us. You no longer have to think about what you are doing. You can do it “in your sleep”.

For instance, this could be as simple as riding a bicycle or driving a car or as complex as flying a plane. But, since you have done it for so many years you just get in and take off. You do not even give it a second thought.

It may also be someone who has been speaking or teaching school or doing secretarial work for 20 or 30 years. They have practiced their skill set until it has become second nature to them. Their planning time is usually cut way back because they know how to do whatever it is they do because they have been doing it so long.

This is the stage where a person makes whatever they are doing look very, very easy to everyone else. I think of a skilled chef who, after years of cooking, can make preparing a delicious meal look very easy. It truly is second nature to them because it has become a natural part of their life.

Truly this is the goal that we should all strive for – to get a place that whatever we do in life it just becomes second nature to us.

I think these four stages of learning are fascinating! I can see how I have been through all four of them in many different areas of life. I can also see how I am still developing in those four areas. I am sure the same is true of you as well.

Please remember that all four of these stages of learning take time. Why not check to see where you think you might be in a particular area at this current time? If you need to grow, feel free to do so! If you want to begin a new area of life, don’t feel badly that you have to start at the bottom of the ladder. It is in taking that first step that you begin to move up the ladder and get to where you want to go.

Keep walking in life and making progress. Just make sure the ladder you are climbing is leaning against the right wall so that you will be satisfied when whatever you are doing becomes second nature to you. In time you will become a blessing and encouragement to all with whom you come in contact.

 

Keith Young

Monday Manifesting Refresh Your Life Message

We are like magnets--our thoughts pull into us everything we experience. If you want to refresh your life you must

align your thoughts of that which you want. Get rid of old negative, scarcity and lack thoughts that hold you back.

Start creating with intention through thoughts first that of what you want to manifest into your life.

Keith Young

High Performance Coach

Law of Attraction Specialist

How to Raise Your Life Level

Almost every kind of unhappy feeling is the result of mistaking the partial for the whole. What this means is that when we don’t see the whole picture, we are likely to act in a way that is self-defeating. One example of this would be that terrible sinking feeling that comes with learning too late, after you’ve become upset, that things weren’t the way you were so sure they had been. That, in fact, it was you who had misjudged or misunderstood the person or event; and now that you can see the whole situation, there is no reason at all to be angry or sad, anxious or afraid.

How many times have we regretted some thoughtless action on our part once we found out all of the facts? This is what we must do: gather all of the facts. I promise you that everything can be explained. Nothing that happens to you or through you need ever go without your understanding why. You can be self-enlightened instead of self-frightened. You have a choice. This discovery that you can always choose in favour of yourself is real excitement.

You do not have to accept your present life-level. Life-level is what determines whether you sail through this life or sink in it. At present, it may seem to you as if there are times when you don’t have much choice in your own life. I want you to know that this is a lie. This temporary feeling of being trapped is part of your current life-level, where you sincerely feel as though your choices are limited. Again, I want you to know this is simply not true. There is always a choice.

The problem is that most men and women insist upon their choices. You must see this. Your present life-level has been determined by the choices you have already made. Why go back to the same field of choices? You already suspect that it will yield no real harvest of happiness. Go ahead and confirm your suspicion. Nothing bad will happen to you. In fact, only something good can occur once you stop clinging to useless ideas. You could say that your new choice is to stop choosing for yourself from yourself. This is the first necessary step for changing your life-level. Here is something to help you see the wisdom of your new and higher choice.

If your choices so far have left you feeling dissatisfied and incomplete, you must stop blaming your selections and see that the problem lies with the chooser — you! You and what happens to you every day are the reflections of your life-level. We are wrongly led to believe that life makes us into the kind of person we are. The truth is that the kind of person we are, our life-level, makes life what it is for us! This is why nothing can really change for us until we see that our unhappiness isn’t connected with the event, it is the level of it. Let’s look at this a little more deeply.

We believe that we meet events and that those events are good or bad, pleasurable or punishing. In other words, our feelings are the reflections of what happens to us moment to moment. That’s why, while acting from our current life-level, our first choice whenever we feel distressed is always to try and change the condition we blame for making us feel that way. The belief being that by changing our unhappy surroundings we will bring an end to our unhappiness. This has never really worked, and it never really will because the unpleasant or unhappy condition was not the event but your reaction to it.

What does this new knowledge mean to you? Everything! It means:

  1. You can let go of those resentful feelings toward your job, because the treadmill isn’t what you are doing but the way you are thinking.

  2. You can let go of trying to change other people, because you are what is bothering you about them.

  3. You can let go of the fear of unforeseen changes or challenges, because the only thing you really ever have to face is yourself.

Best of all, you can let go of the impossible and unbelievably self-punishing task of thinking that you are responsible for the way the world turns. The only world you are responsible for is your inner-world — the world of your thoughts and feelings, impulses and desires. Your life-level is determined by how clearly you can see into this inner-world. This new kind of seeing is safety and ultimately the root of all self-success, because when you know where not to step, your walk through life is a safe and happy one.

You wouldn’t go over to your neighbour’s kitchen to fix your broken sink. Why try and change your outer world when it is only a reflection of your inner life? Do not try to change the external world. Change your own attitudes and viewpoints. When you change yourself, you change the world as far as you are concerned, for you are your own world. Here is a simple way to say all of this: The inner determines the outer.

This is not as difficult to understand as it may appear at first. Let’s take an example. If a person writing a letter misspells a word, the error starts in his mind, after which it appears on paper. He cannot possibly correct the paper until his mind is corrected first. If he does not clarify his mind, the error must repeat itself on paper endlessly. No doubt you see the parallel here with human problems. People try to correct exterior mistakes instead of correcting the way they think, which leaves them lost, because unknowingly they are still chained to a mistake-making machine. That is why it is so important to understand this lesson. Your discontentment with life is with your understanding — your life-level — not with what your understanding has brought to you. Trying to change your life without first changing your life-level is like trying to convince yourself that a merry-go-round has a destination. If you are tired of going around and around, remember you can get off whenever you choose.

Truthful principles such as these are here to assist you in making this Higher choice by helping you to increase your self-understanding. This elevated understanding in turn raises your life-level. As you raise your life-level, you will see that you have effortlessly raised the way in which you react to every event. Then the whole world begins to slow down for you because you now understand it wasn’t this life that was making you dizzy… it was your thinking.

Keith Young

High Performance coach

Law of Attraction Specialist