That’s what Steve Siebold, self-made millionaire and author of “How Rich People Think,” found after studying more than 1,200 of the world’s wealthiest people over the past 30 years.
He also noticed one thought pattern they tend to avoid: nostalgia.
While average people tend to long for the good old days, rich people dream of the future and are optimistic about what is to come.
“People who believe their best days are behind them rarely get rich, and often struggle with unhappiness and depression,” Siebold writes in “How Rich People Think.”
“Self-made millionaires get rich because they’re willing to bet on themselves and project their dreams, goals, and ideas into an unknown future.”
This future-oriented mindset does not mean they completely neglect the past, Siebold emphasizes: “They appreciate and learn from the past while living in the present and dreaming of the future.” And they don’t just dream — they spend years tirelessly and patiently planning in order to realize their dreams.
Part of this ability to avoid nostalgia and look toward an unknown future comes from their comfort with uncertainty. They’re not only willing to step outside of their comfort zone — they expect to.
“The great ones know there’s a price to pay for getting rich, but if they have the mental toughness to endure temporary pain, they can reap the harvest of abundant wealth for the rest of their lives,” the self-made millionaire says.
|My coach, Willie, sent me this article this week.
I was talking to a friend of mine the other day, and she was explaining to me how disappointed she was in people and the things that they do and have done to her. She went on and on about how upset and heartbroken she was, and has been, about some of her family and friends. She talked about how they hurt her and how she wished they would change and be better people. She wanted them to be different than the people they were.
Halfway through this complaint-a-thon, I asked her to take a walk with me in the backyard. Now, you have to know this particular friend of mine. She hates the heat, and it was a hot day. I said, “come on” so she reluctantly came with me.
We got outside and it was steaming hot. I could see that she was uncomfortable. Nevertheless, we kept walking around my backyard. As she was still complaining about people, I asked her what she thought of my grass. Mind you, in order to appreciate the grass you had to stand in the direct sunlight. She said “Wow, I love your grass. It’s beautiful, but it’s hot right here. Let’s cool off under that oak tree over there.”
So, as she started to walk to the tree I said, “No no, let’s stay here in the grass and cool off.”
She turned to me quickly and said, “We can’t cool off on this grass.”
Right then, I said to her, “But you just said the grass was beautiful.”
“I did” she replied. Then, I asked her, “Why won’t you stay here?” She said, because she was hot and the grass couldn’t cool her off. So, we walked over to the oak tree and sat there.
She said, “Now you see? This is what I needed.”
Then I asked her this question. “The grass was beautiful. You loved it. Why didn’t you get mad with the grass because it couldn’t provide the shade you wanted?
She was confused, so I went on to explain myself. “People in this world, whether they were created a certain way or became that way through life’s circumstances, are who they are. Stop wishing they will be someone else.”
I said, “The next time you get upset with someone because they can’t do, or can’t be what you want them to be, remember the grass. Never get mad at a blade of grass because it’s not a tree. Appreciate the grass for what it is. Let it provide to you what it can, but don’t expect more. Your life will get so much easier when you start letting people be who they are and stop expecting them to give you what they don’t have or don’t know how to give. Just like that grass couldn’t provide shade because it wasn’t made to, some people are not made to give you what you’re asking for. So, stop looking for it. You will be shocked at how much peace you find when you really get this.”
And the last thing I said to her was this. “You wouldn’t be so frustrated with people who are like the grass if you had more people who are like trees in your life.”
I could really go deep into this, but I gotta go back to work. Talk to me. What do you think?
I am your constant companion.
I am your greatest asset are your heaviest burden.
I will push you up to successor down to disappointment.
I am at your command.
Half the things you do just as well be turned over to me,
for I can do them quickly, correctly, and profitably.
I am easily managed, just be firm with me.
Those who are great, I have made great.
Those who are failures, I have made failures.
I am not a machine, though I work with the precision of a machine and the intelligence of the person.
You can run me for profit, or you can run me for ruining.
Show me how you want it done. Educate me. Train me.
Lead me. Reward me.
And I will then… Do it automatically.
I am your servant.
Who am I?
I am a habit.
The words and phrases we use carry a lot of power and can either lead you to success or sabotage your efforts. This video will show you how your words can either empower you or sabotage you. Watch the video and please leave a comment below.
This was taken from Kelly Lewis who I think is a great Law of Attraction coach. Check her out at Kelly Lewis coaching.
How often do you take the time to enjoy a peaceful moment? In this fast-paced world, even when we’re not working, we’re busy entertaining or being entertained, socializing, exercising, cleaning, driving, shopping, and taking care of our homes and families.
So when was the last time you spent a quiet moment just doing nothing — simply sitting and gazing out the window, watching the rain splashing down, or the snow gently falling, or the wind blowing through the trees? Or watching waves rippling on a pond, a flickering candle, or children playing joyfully in the park? When was the last time you didn’t have something scheduled, when you could just sit and relax, and simply BE, until you were ready to move on?
Everywhere you look on television, and social media, people are taking the ice bucket challenge for ALS. Every one is jumping on the bandwagon for this one. I do love that it is for a very worthy cause. I would like to use this opportunity to give you additional thoughts on this ice bucket phenomenon.
With a lot of people putting so much energy and thought into taking this challenge, and also challenging other people, what about if we put as much energy and thought into other things in our lives. It seems like almost everyone wants to be included in on this and are willing to show the world through social media that we support this. I know a lot of people are just probably following the lead of someone else. In doing this. Just because they were challenged. Read More…
For many, it’s a fear of rejection. Imagine the level of success you could create if you were to transform that fear into the power of focus and commitment. A lot of times, when you question the fear, you’ll find it has no substance. Ask yourself, What’s the worst that could happen if I’m rejected? Usually, the answer is that you might hear someone say “no.” Is that really such a big deal? Does it change your value?
There’s nothing that anyone can do, say, or think to lessen your value. You have incredible value simply because you are here on this planet. And you can decide how much you align yourself with that truth. It is impossible for anyone to reject you unless you are rejecting yourself. Because remember, your outer reality is a reflection of your inner reality. Others are just mirroring back to you the way you feel about yourself. Read More…