How many of you have heard that you cannot do anything with your past? I know I have taught that to my clients many times before. Today I am going to tell you that there is something very powerful that you can do with your past.
Maybe something’s happened in your past and to this very day still hangs over you. Maybe it was something foolish that you did when you were younger or maybe it was just a secret situation that no one else knew about except you.
I do believe that most of us have things in our lives that if we could do them over again we would. I know I do. There is something very powerful that you can do with those situations but before I tell you what it is, let me tell you about two things that do not work concerning your past.
The first thing is, you can regret your past. This will cause you to feel guilty and frustrated because of what is happened in your past. Guilt is a gift that keeps on giving. Ask me how I know that? There is absolutely no way for you to go back and undo the past. When you start to live in regret you will be living under a cloud of sorrow and depression.
When you start focusing on things in your past your thoughts start to become things like, “I wish I could do that all over again.” Or maybe, “I wish that had never happened.” You start the, “if only, if only, if only…” Syndrome. Regret will simply take you around in circles and you end up right back to where you started.
The second thing is, you can re-live your past. This could be perhaps even a worse situation. When you try and relive your past, you will then constantly look for ways to undo what is already been done. I know some people were still trying to make amends for something that happened many years ago.
I know some people that are still striving to please a deceased relative hoping to make a past mistake turn out better. If you would stop and think about it, that makes absolutely no sense whatsoever. When you continually relive your situation, it will always bring you to a dead end. You will end up remaining stuck exactly where you are.
I want to suggest another way that you can handle your past and that is to reframe it. When you stop and reframe your past, you then will be able to look at it and learn from your mistakes. You will be able to learn and grow from what you have experienced in your life.
All of us make mistakes because we are human beings. Stop living with a spirit of regret or trying to relive the past because the best thing you can possibly do is to reframe everything. Start to put things in proper perspective. Maybe your mistakes have been made when you were trying to learn how to do life. You are in a different place in different mindset in that time of your life.
These mistakes could’ve been by accident or may have been deliberate. It doesn’t matter because the deed was done. Now the best thing for you to do is reframe it by saying that what happened did give you a new direction, wisdom and insights for your life.
Think of it this way, things didn’t happen to you, they happened for you! I encourage you to take the time to ask yourself some questions. What really bothers you? What want you from your past Western Mark what thoughts constantly creep into your mind when you are quiet and laying in bed each night or when you are all alone?
Learn how to reframe those thoughts and let them be the road signs that would take your life in a new direction. I personally have learned to do this even though it has been painful. I have allowed my failures to turn into blessings in my life by reframing things that hurt me in the past but now give my life new direction in the present and for the future.
Every single one of us can refrain things in such a way that we will learn from our mistakes and failures in order to become all that we were meant to be. That my friend is the healthy way to see life. It also happens to be the best way to grow in the future. If you would just give this reframing a try I guarantee you this attitude works.