Things Never Stay the Same

A long time ago, 1985 to be exact, I lost my mother. I got divorced in 1986 and my world turned upside down. My grandmother and father were the constants in my life at that time. In 1988 I lost my grandmother in November and my dad in December, 6 weeks apart. My constants were now gone.  They were a constant in my life since I was born obviously. But all that has come to an end. It has taken me a few years to gain some perspective about life and relationships.

All of us have had experiences where parents, brothers and sisters, children, loved ones or friends have gone their separate ways. Sometimes people move away and other times they pass away.

Regardless of what is going on in your life at this moment, it will not remain the same forever. If you are experiencing some good things in your life right now, relish them and enjoy them. Life is made up of great memories with family and friends.

However, you may be going through a difficult time right now. You may be in a job situation that you do not like, or your financial picture may seem very bleak. Just remember, things will not always stay that way. Something will happen to cause a bad situation to get better. You may get a new job opportunity or meet someone who is able to open a door for you that you were not expecting.

When I was going through my divorce, I did not think it would ever end! It seemed as though all I ever did was go to court or see my attorney. Now as I look back on all of that, it actually seems like a brief experience. What was once a difficult experience for me is no longer part of my daily life.

When I think about the fact that things will not always be the same, it helps me to stay balanced as well as “in the moment”. That thought helps me to live in the present. I have come to realize that every day of my life is a unique expression of who I am and what is taking place around me. I want to enjoy it to the fullest. Each day is a day that will exist only once and then it will be gone forever.

The people, events, circumstances and situations currently in your life, whether good or bad, will not last forever. I can assure you, in time, things will change. What you now look at as usual, will one day be unusual and part of the past. What is great for you today will one day come to an end. What is difficult for you right now will one day cease.

Begin today to look at every situation that is taking place in your life as though it will only last for a limited amount of time. Learn what you can from your present set of circumstances and grow in the area in which you are now planted.

It works for me and I am sure it will work for you as well.

Keith Young

High Performance coach


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