Time to Discover Your Personal Truth
Most of us were taught growing up to tell the truth. Remember the saying, “honesty is the best policy.” As we grew older we watched adults tell lies and get away with them. We also learned that sometimes when we do tell the truth people get upset. Most people want to avoid any type of conflict or confrontation so we stopped telling the truth all the time. Somehow to tell the truth became a good idea when it was to our advantage to tell it.
The big problem with inconsistent truth telling is that it blurs the moral and ethical lines. When we lose our morals and our ethics which is our personal truth, we also lose ourselves. What we lose is who we really are deep inside and become who we think we should be just to fit in to what other people think we should be.
I think it is time to stop worrying about what everyone else will think if we speak our truth. It is time to stop allowing others to tell us what our truth should be. I think it is time to know our truth, become our truth and the speaker truth.
There is absolutely no one that can tell you who you are or what to believe unless you allow them to do that. I know it is easier to go along with the crowd than to stand your ground one problems come up. I know some people that have gone with the flow for so long they don’t even know what they believe anymore.
In this lesson I am going to help you discover where you stand and what you stand for.
It will probably be very difficult to speak your truth at first. Once you start speaking your truth you will absolutely have more respect for yourself. Once you get in touch with your personal truth you will never allow others to stomp on it ever again.
We received an enormous amount of information every single day. We are told what we should think and how we should live our lives based on what the majority thinks is the correct way to live. While I’m here to tell you that you are NOT in the majority. You are an individual.
Just because everyone on this planet thinks in a certain way, doesn’t mean you have to conform to that way of thinking. You decide what you believe, what your personal truth is, and stand in your personal truth. Let it permeate throughout your being.
Just remember to speak your truth with kindness. There is absolutely no reason to get nastier defensive with anyone about it. In fact, you do not have to defend it. If it’s what you believe there is absolutely no reason for you to explain yourself. Respect other people’s own truths as well because everyone has their own personal truth. No one has to agree with yours and you don’t have to agree with anyone else’s.
When you begin to have a different truth than others you will find that a lot of people will get upset so don’t be surprised as you cannot control other people. What’s more important though is that they can no longer control you.
THIS WEEK'S ACTION STEP
Here is this week’s personal exercise:
Do you know your personal truth? What do you feel very strongly about? Maybe you don’t even know. Well now is a good time to find out!
If you’re not in touch with your own personal truth here are a few examples:
One of your family members says something negative or untrue about another family member. Instead of speaking up you keep quiet and don’t correct them.
Maybe a coworker or even a supervisor takes credit for your work. You don’t say or do anything about it.
You’re at a party and someone makes a racist or sexist joke. You only react with a slight smile. You might be thinking that this doesn’t have anything to do with you as they are not talking about you. Your personal truth not only involves your personal truth about yourself, but also how you protect those who are not there or cannot speak for themselves.
For this exercise I would like you to take out your journal or notebook and ask yourself your beliefs and not anyone else’s beliefs about the following subjects. We are only talking your beliefs here.
As you discover your personal truths about these things, you can add subjects as they are presented to you. When someone asks you how you feel on a certain subject, really think about it. If you really don’t know don’t agree with how others feel if you don’t feel that same way at that time.
You simply say, “I don’t know. Let me think about it.” Then later, sit down with yourself and discover your truth about it.
Remember, Life isn't about finding yourself, life is about creating yourself. It is time to create the best life possible!
Until next week