How to Forgive Yourself
There are many speakers and authors that talk about the power of forgiveness. They talk about forgiving others for the wrongs that they have done to us and how important of a step that is for living your best life.
There are people who do things either consciously or unconsciously, that will lead to years of pain and turmoil in the lives of other people. Forgiveness will allow us to deal with any given situation and to help move past it. If you do well on past wrongs that have happened to you it will only stop you from living in the present and will stop you from preparing for an abundant future for yourself.
Question: what do you do when the person who has hurt you the most is someone you have probably never even considered forgiving? What if that person is you?
There is no one that is perfect and every single one of us makes mistakes. When you do make a mistake it is perfectly fine to acknowledge that you made a mistake but do not hold it against yourself and keep beating yourself up for the rest of your life.
If the mistake you have made has hurt someone in some way than just apologize for it and I mean really apologize for it. Acknowledge that other person’s feelings and say you’re sorry and then ask for their forgiveness but then also forgive yourself.
Now, if the mistake you made is hurt only you, such as you hate your body and you let it go over the years, or you don’t think you’re good enough, etc. then just apologize to yourself and I mean really apologize.
Just acknowledge that you have been way too hard on yourself and say you’re sorry and ask yourself for forgiveness. Then forgive yourself.
Learn from your mistakes when you make them. Show that you have conviction to learn from your mistakes by not making the same one twice. You should be living consciously. Just forgive yourself and do better the next time around.
THIS WEEK'S ACTION STEP
Here is this week’s personal exercise:
A lot of times it is harder for us to forgive ourselves than to forgive others who have wronged us or have hurt us. It is just as important for your inner peace and tranquility to forgive yourself.
So take out your journal or notebook and ask yourself some simple questions:
Do I use my inner self talk to beat myself up mentally and spiritually?
Do I not allow myself happiness because deep down inside I believe I don’t deserve to be happy?
Am I holding myself back from any kind of relationships because deep down I believe I’ll just screw them up and repeat some of my past patterns?
In my settling for a relationship, career or job etc. because deep down I believe I’m not worth of anything better?