Learning how to ask for what you want
We have everything that we could ever want right at our fingertips. The reason you probably do not have it is because you have not asked for it. All you have to do is to ask for it!
It is probably not quite that simple for most people. If it were, wouldn’t we all be living with prosperity and abundance? We would probably all be just floating around happy as a lark and on cloud nine. So just what is holding us all back? What is stopping us from truly living the life that we desire?
Is it because of your dead-end job? Is it because of your spouse or your parents? We probably could all point fingers every single day at the people in our lives who do not allow us to do what we want to do and that is keeping us from our dreams.
But are they really the problem? We probably do not want to hear the truth. In fact, taking a line from Col. Jessup in the movie a few good men, “you can’t handle the truth!”
So the truth is WE are the problem! The single biggest challenge and obstacle to overcome in our journey to become successful and to live successful lives is ourselves. Yes, we are our own worst enemy.
Here’s the good news. We can change. We can choose to become our greatest ally and our own best friend. So just how do we make this happen? Well, to begin you should change the way you think about yourself and believing that you deserve the best possible life.
Here are the top five main reasons why we usually don’t ask for what we want.
Ignorance--we just don’t know that we’re supposed to ask.
Limiting beliefs— these are inaccurate beliefs that if we ask for what we want we will receive.
Fear— we fear change. We are in our comfort zone even though we want to change our lives. We have the fear of the unknown and what that may hold.
Pride— we do not want to admit that we need to change and we are too proud to admit it thinking we are doing okay. We are too proud to ask for any help.
Low self-esteem— we do not feel we deserve to have a prosperous and abundant life. We do not feel we deserve to ask for something better.
This week I would just like you to focus on recognizing low self-esteem in the process of overcoming that hurdle. Do you want to earn $1 million this year or do you want to live in your dream home? You want to have that relationship with someone who is thoughtful and adoring? Would you like to work in an environment with the kind of people who love and respect you? I think just about anyone would to all of the above. No one would want anything less.
But here is the real question. Do you really think you deserve all of these things?
When you first think about it you probably think that you absolutely deserve all of these things and probably much more. What I am talking about how you feel really deep down. Do you really believe that all of these things should and can be yours? You can have your supervisor or boss praising you all the time and your spouse and friends professing their adoration and love for you, but unless you really believe that you deserve the best in life, then none of that matters.
So how do you go about changing your self-image? I suggest starting by listening and I mean consciously listening to what you tell yourself during your daily routine. This is called your inner self talk. In other words when you make a mistake do you tell yourself, “I am just so stupid I should not have done that. Why am I always doing stupid things?”
When you say things similar to this on a daily basis, this way of thinking wires you to believe that you are stupid and that you always do stupid things. This belief then sinks into your subconscious soon becomes part of how you view yourself and the mental image that you have about yourself.
This is extremely dangerous to your well-being and to your life because your subconscious mental self-image is then projected through you into this world around you. Remember, others see you as you see yourself.
Becoming aware and stopping your negative self talk when it enters your mind is not quite enough. You then must replace that negative self talk with positive self talk. Why is this? Well, the Universe detests a vacuum. So, if you create a void by getting rid of the negative self talk and do not replace it with something positive, the Universe will replace it with something, possibly even more negativity. You want to substitute a positive for a negative so that you are in control of what fills up that void and that empty space.
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