Week 33 Stepping into Greatness Lesson

Take the Blame


There are many people out there who believe that they are owed something and everything and life should be handed to them on a silver platter to lead an amazing life that is bursting with wealth and success. They want all this without having to do anything for it. I want to let you in on a secret. The universe doesn’t owe any of us anything.

There is no easy way to say this so I will just say it. It is time to wake up and smell the coffee people. The chances are that if you do not already know the truth, you are not going to like it. So here is the absolute truth.

You get back what you give in other words you reap what you sow. The only person the blame for your past, your present, and your future success or failure, and even your joy or your unhappiness is the person in the mirror. That’s right it is YOU!

The person to blame for the current life you have today is that person in the mirror that you see every morning. Most of us have played the “blame game” at one time or another. In fact, I know some people that could probably win an Olympic gold medal if the “blame game” was an event.

You probably know some of them yourself and you see them every day. Their failure and lack of success is never their fault or the person who causes misery or failure for them is always someone else.

If they didn’t get that promotion it is because they did or didn’t do anything, it is probably the interviewer’s fault or someone else sucked up to management to get that position. Maybe even they blame management because they were out to get them.

Maybe these people had their car or house repossessed but it is not their fault. I mean how can they be expected to make all those payments on time? The bank is just out to ruin their lives or God himself is out to get them.

Maybe it was a relationship that didn’t work out for them but it is not their fault it is the other person’s fault. That person was just using them and they had nothing to do with the breakup.

Now I am not saying that we can control everything that happens to us. I know there are terrible crimes committed against people out there such as rape, mugging, murder, assault etc. that is committed every single day. These terrible events are completely beyond our control but those are not the things that I am referring to here.

When it is all said and done we and we alone are the reasons for our successes and our failures. It is time for you and everyone else to step up to the plate and take responsibility for your life no matter what the condition it is in currently.




Here is this week’s personal exercise:

Words have a lot of power so watch your language. You should use your power wisely. You should use your power to bring success, abundance and light into your life. Use your power to stamp out failure and darkness around you.

For this upcoming week I want you to consciously become aware of every word coming out of your mouth. You should think before you speak.

So if someone should ask you a question, you should pause for at least five seconds before you answer someone. Silently count to five in your head you have to. This will let people know that you will listen to what they just said. Those five precious seconds will allow you to process what you have just heard and censor any negativity or blame that would otherwise come out of your mouth and create something positive to say instead.

There will be times that you accidentally say something negative or play the blame game. If you find yourself doing this just correct yourself immediately verbally. You just put the words out to the universe in a negative form so you must put the correction out there as well.

As an example, maybe you are having a conversation with a coworker about an increase in salary that you didn’t receive and you say something to the effect, “no, I did not get the raise and I work my fingers to the bone. My boss must be trying to keep me down.”

You should immediately put the words out there and take responsibility for what you just said and show initiative:

“I haven’t received my raise yet. Maybe it was a misunderstanding between me and my boss from getting that pay increase I was expecting. Perhaps my boss needs to identify how I need to improve in my job performance to merit getting a raise.”

Keep in mind that the blaming, negative attitude will get you nowhere.

Besides being conscious of the words you use in your language, I would like you to keep track in your journal or notebook the instances you are tempted to say and actually speak negative things or that you put the blame on someone else for misfortunes. At the end of the week you will be amazed at the number of entries you have accumulated.

Words are powerful tool so practice using it wisely.

Remember, Life isn't about finding yourself, life is about creating yourself. It is time to create the best life possible!

Until next week

Keith Young

High Performance coach and Law of Attraction specialist